How would you describe yourself to someone?

Who is Tiara Christopher?

“Before we change the world, we have to change ourselves.” This quote by Mahatma Gandhi encapsulates my journey and the core of my personal philosophy. It highlights the importance of inner transformation as the foundation for making a meaningful impact on the world.

First and foremost, I am an extraordinary mother to my nearly three-year-old daughter, Elizabeth Margo. Being her mother is the most cherished role in my life.

My own experiences as an adult child have left me deeply saddened. I have long yearned for a profound, healthy mother-daughter relationship—a bond that has eluded me despite fifteen years of therapy. This longing for belonging and connection has profoundly impacted my life.

Despite this, I have achieved significant success. From a young age, I understood that my mother’s pride in my achievements was conditional. She celebrated my awards and trophies, and I internalized that love and attention were tied to my accomplishments. This drove me to become an overachiever, earning three degrees in various fields. Yet, even that wasn’t enough. I pursued a career as a wellness specialist, enrolling in numerous health teaching programs, including prenatal, child, and anxiety yoga. My aim was to bridge the gap between my mother and me, but I’ve come to accept that trying to please her is futile. She struggles to please herself, and I cannot be held responsible for her inability to provide the love I sought.

As I advanced in my education and career, I realized that my drive for success was rooted in a lack of unconditional love. This realization has been painful, but it’s also a source of accountability. My current situation is a reflection of this emotional struggle, triggered by the belief that my mother’s love was contingent on my achievements.

Who I am is an unloved child, a parentless soul who has found solace at the feet of Jesus. I am broken, hurt, and deeply traumatized. My journey has led me to use my personal pain as a catalyst for healing others. As a trauma specialist, I leverage yoga, trauma circles, and journaling to guide people through their own healing processes. We begin by writing about our pain, setting intentions for healing, and then practicing yoga to release it.

I am a prolific writer who channels my pain into my work, using my writing as my canvas. I combine the poetic depth of Maya Angelou, the dramatic flair of Shakespeare, and the emotional rawness of J. Cole.

In my writing, I see myself as an artist akin to Picasso. Just as Picasso’s Guernica captures the raw intensity and suffering of war, my words portray the depth of my pain and experiences. My writing serves as a canvas where I paint my trauma with the same boldness and clarity that Picasso used to depict the horrors of conflict. Like Picasso’s masterpiece, my work aims to evoke a powerful response and offer a fresh perspective on the struggles I’ve faced.

In essence, I am an artist, a poet, and an author. I am a human being striving for the love I never received from my mother. This longing has shaped me into the devoted and loving mother I am today. Despite facing homelessness, I chose to entrust Elizabeth’s care to her father, believing that my suffering should not be her burden. However, I’ve learned that true growth comes from nurturing my own garden. Although there are more weeds than roses at times, I continue to water it daily, praying that one day, vibrant orchids, lilies, and yellow roses—my favorite flowers—will bloom where the weeds once grew.

Welcome to my world of resilience, empowerment, and authenticity. As a proud single mom, entrepreneur, and advocate, I share my journey not just to inspire but to ignite the strength within you. My writing reflects my lived experiences—from overcoming homelessness to embracing motherhood with unwavering love. Here, raw truth meets heartfelt wisdom, and together, we’ll explore the path of healing and growth.

Start with some of my breakout pieces that have deeply resonated with readers:

1. “Dollhouse” – A look into how families that seem perfect to outsiders can be deeply troubled behind closed doors.

2. “The Boy Disguised as a Man” – A personal account of being trapped by an older man with a baby, challenging the belief that only women trap men.

3. “The Heart He Left Behind” – A narrative on love, loss, and finding resilience in the aftermath.

4. “Sarah Jakes Roberts, Strip Clubs, and Subpoenas” – How every strip club in Vegas was subpoenaed, and the guidance of Sarah Jakes Roberts helped me navigate through it.

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