“Trauma doesn’t have to remain traumatic. You can change your narrative” – Scheli

God is doing something. It all started in September. As I marked my calendar, I sensed that September would be eventful, but I had no idea how unexpected the journey would be.

On September 22, 2024, I was blessed with an invitation to Influence Her, an event hosted by personal coach and digital marketing guru, Dominique Poydras. At this event, I noticed a striking woman sitting at the front table. She was elegantly dressed, and I recognized her as the runner-up for Miss Black Nevada. I acknowledged her presence, thinking how lavishly she carried herself, but I didn’t dwell on it.

Just three days later, another blessing came my way. I won a free ticket to the Becoming a Balanced Boss: Mastering Mental Health in Leadership conference. As a raffle winner, I was seated at a VIP table near the front. The seat next to me was empty, but I didn’t think much of it.

A few hours into the event, that empty seat was filled—by none other than the runner-up for Miss Black Nevada. I learned her name was Sheridan. At first, I was dismayed. Why her? Why was she placed next to me? I’ve always known that I am a star. I am meant to shine. I didn’t want anyone dimming my light, especially someone whose presence commanded attention like hers.

But as the day unfolded, I realized something deeper was happening. The event was called Women in Leadership, and that’s exactly what Sheridan and I represented. Two women of strength, two leaders. At the previous event, we had been seated on opposite sides of the room, but now, here we were, side by side. It wasn’t a coincidence. God was orchestrating this moment, teaching me that leadership isn’t about competition but collaboration. It was about creating balance—sharing the spotlight, not hoarding it.

I believe deeply that God makes no mistakes. I wasn’t just randomly placed next to the next Miss Black Nevada. God was showing me that I, too, deserve to sit at the same table, to share space with greatness. God thinks highly of me, and that’s something I’ve always known in my soul. I thank God for continually affirming what I feel inside: I am prestige. I am worthy.

I am the change I want to see in this world. I am changing my life; one divine encounter at a time.

Welcome to my world of resilience, empowerment, and authenticity. As a single mother, entrepreneur, and advocate, I share my journey to ignite strength within you. My writing, shaped by overcoming homelessness and embracing motherhood, blends raw truth with heartfelt wisdom. Together, we explore the path of healing and growth.

Here are some of my breakout pieces that have deeply resonated with readers:

1. “Inside the Head of a Severely Traumatized Soul Who Used Her Pain to Become a Trauma Specialist and Psychologist” 

This piece offers an introspective look at my cognitive process as a traumatized individual who turned to education for understanding. Earning three degrees and becoming a trauma specialist, wellness specialist, and psychologist, I am both the case study and the analyst. This compelling read sheds light on the complexities of trauma and recovery.

2. “Dollhouse”

This narrative reveals how my immediate and estranged families appeared perfect to the outside world. Despite my mother’s absence of visible issues, I ended up in foster care, challenging the misconception that outward appearances reflect true reality. Just as people underestimated my former partner’s manipulative nature, the blog demonstrates that what seems perfect may hide significant troubles.

3. “The Caregiver Paradox: Analyzing Emotional Dynamics and Familial Disconnections”

A sequel to “Dollhouse,” this piece explores the irony of how the person closest to me became my greatest disappointment. It explores how caregivers may struggle to provide the same level of care to loved ones as they do to those they are paid to care for. This engaging read offers a multifaceted perspective, blending personal experiences with sociological and psychological insights.

4. “The Boy Disguised as a Man”

This personal account challenges the belief that only women trap men by sharing my experience of being manipulated by an older man with a baby. It offers a raw look at power dynamics and manipulation.

5. “The Heart He Left Behind”

As a sequel to “The Boy Disguised as a Man,” this narrative explores themes of love, loss, and resilience in the aftermath of a difficult relationship. It continues the story of emotional growth and healing.

6. “The Legacy of Racial Classification: Johann Friedrich Blumenbach’s Influence on Racial Stereotyping and Its Modern Implications”

This blog examines the enduring impact of historical racial theories on contemporary society. It explores Johann Friedrich Blumenbach’s 18th-century racial classification and its implications for white supremacy. Through historical and modern cases, such as the Scottsboro Boys, the Attica Prison Riot, the Central Park Five, and Deandre Arnold, it highlights the persistence of racial stereotypes.

7. “The Most Beautiful Lie I Ever Heard”

This blog critiques Blumenbach’s assertion that “Caucasians are the most beautiful race,” exposing the Eurocentric perspective that placed Caucasians at the pinnacle of human development. It unpacks how this view contributed to a racial hierarchy and continues to impact our understanding of race today.

8. “Black: The Definition of Us”

Written during my Communication degree pursuit, this blog examines the Central Park Five case and the impact of Blumenbach’s views from 1775. It critiques ongoing racial biases in the justice system and explores the sociological and psychological disparities faced by minorities. This piece serves as both an educational tool and a call to action to address these injustices.

My writing is a testament to my journey and my commitment to illuminating complex issues. Join me as we navigate the intersections of trauma, race, and justice, and work towards a more empathetic and informed society. 

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